Eight weeks before Danelle Buchmans baby was due, an artery ruptured in her uterus, which nearly killed her and her child. Delivered by emergency C-section in 2010, her newborn daughter, Avery, spent one month in intensive care. Buchman survived only after an immediate hysterectomy.
When she tried to return to a PR job she loved and had won rave performance reviews for at a Maryland nonprofit a few weeks later, Buchmans employer first demoted her and cut her salary by a third. Then it fired her.
It was all perfectly legal. Buchman, 37, who lives in Clarksville, Md., was not covered by the federal Family Medical Leave Act. And a new Labor Department survey shows that neither is 40 percent of the U.S. workforce.
Advocates, including President Obama, hailed the hard-won laws 20th anniversary this month, saying it has helped an estimated 100 million workers take up to 12 weeks of unpaid leave annually to handle health issues without losing their jobs.
International studies have found that it is the only family-friendly policy in the United States and that other countries have more. But Buchman wanted to get the word out that the policy isnt so family-friendly after all.
Can you imagine if you were never sick, never had a baby, you never had a wife who had a baby, if your parents never needed help. I mean, who is that? Buchman said.
I was lucky. My husband had a job, and we went into crazy credit card debt. But so many people who dont have the support system I had are one accident, one illness away from losing their livelihood.
The law, which took nine years to pass, was designed to acknowledge that workers and their families get sick, workers have babies and workers need to care for aging parents. The business community insisted it be unpaid as a check on employee misuse, said Marc Freedman, of the U.S. Chamber of Commerce.
However, the law does not apply to companies with 50 or fewer employees, part-time workers, those who have worked for a company for less than a year or those who have taken unpaid medical leave within the previous two years. It also does not cover workers who care for grandparents or extended family members.
In medical emergencies, the fate of those workers is left entirely up to individual managers and companies. Some companies that are not forced to comply with the leave act, such as the Cook Ross consulting company in Silver Spring, Md., nevertheless match and even exceed the law. But others dont.
And even when workers are covered by the law, they are sometimes penalized for taking advantage of it, as court cases and 5,375 labor violations show. Workers covered by the law have been fired for asking for leave to care for chronically ill parents or to accompany a dying father to the hospital.
Yolanda Holmes was fired when she didnt return to work when her baby was 12 days old. Holmes had been on doctor-ordered bed rest during her pregnancy. Her employer, the former E. Spire Communications of Annapolis, Md., maintained that she had used up all her medical leave before the babys birth. She sued in federal court and lost.
Daniel Coleman sued his employer, the Maryland Court of Appeals, contending that he was fired in 2007 for requesting 10 days of medical leave to treat his hypertension and diabetes. The U.S. Supreme Court decided 5 to 4 last year that states are immune from family leave act lawsuits.
However, a recent Virginia case set a new precedent that public officials could be held accountable as individuals for violations.
Patricia Weth, 48, had worked for the Arlington County treasurer for six years. On the day in 2010 that she returned from a seven-week leave in which she underwent surgery and chemotherapy for uterine and ovarian cancer, her boss fired her. She sued. Although she lost, her case could help others who are fired by public officials.
Thats the one gem that came out of this humiliating experience, she said. I fear this law is not protecting people.
Talk to the nearly 500 members of the Tysons Corner New Moms MeetUp group in Virginia about their parental leave, and you get 500 different stories.
Some mothers, like about half the workforce, had some paid time off. Others had leave without pay. Still others were entitled to no leave at all. Some were laid off while pregnant. Some quit. Some stopped breast-feeding early. And all worried not only about finances but also about the research showing how critical the first year is for an infant to bond with a parent and breast-feed to develop physically and emotionally.
My family in China was shocked when they heard that there are only 12 weeks unpaid leave for maternity in the United States, because we have six months paid in China, said Yiman Song, a TYMOMS member.
My mom commented: Why are these Americans always attacking us for not having human rights while they dont even give enough for their future generation?
The United States is one of only three countries, with Papua New Guinea and Swaziland, that do not mandate paid parental leave out of 177 nations, according to researchers at McGill and Harvard universities.
Were supposed to be a country of fairness, freedom and family, and yet we have, literally, forced people to abandon children after open heart surgery, said Ellen Bravo, a longtime advocate who fought for the laws passage in 1993 and is working to expand it. We can do better than that.
In 2010, when Buchman was rushed to the hospital, each of the laws limitations applied. Buchman had had her first child just 14 months before Averys delivery and had worked part time for a little under a year for the Maryland affiliate of the nonprofit Susan G. Komen for the Cure.
I hit the roof. I said, Youre an organization that cares about womens health and Ive been through the worst summer of my life, Buchman said. They told me theyd talked to a lawyer. But I said, That shouldnt keep you from doing the right thing.
Some small businesses comply with the law anyway, saying that its good for productivity and the bottom line to have a compassionate, caring culture. Cook Ross in Silver Spring has only 14 employees but offers more leave than larger companies are required to provide under the law.
Leaves are definitely not easy to manage, but we recognize that people have full and complex lives, managing partner Michael Amilcar said. Our whole philosophy is: When employees have the space to really take care of themselves and their families, they come back to work filled with passion and commitment.