Who says women can’t do pull-ups? Certainly not Neghar Fonooni, a Baltimore personal trainer who, in the span of a year, went from doing assisted pull-ups to hoisting her own body weight plus a 36-pound kettlebell over the bar.

“The first time I got a really clean, unassisted pull-up, I jumped down, looked around the gym and said, ‘Did anybody see that?’ It was amazing,” she says.

According to Fonooni, 30, pull-ups are becoming an increasingly common goal among women, even though – or perhaps because – they just seem so hard. Hard, but not impossible.

Here are her top tips for getting your first pull-up:

Do pull-ups. It might sound like stating the obvious, but you won’t get better at pull-ups without doing pull-ups. Start with assisted pull-ups using a band.

Get help. Fonooni prefers using elastic bands instead of assisted pull-up machines; bands force you to engage your core and lower body.

Understand the movement. Form matters, whether you are doing assisted or unassisted pull-ups. Start with arms fully extended, from a dead hang, and pull yourself up until your chin is over the bar.

Start slow. Beginners should start with assisted pull-ups once a week for three to four weeks, aiming for 10 reps to build up muscle endurance and to get used to the movement.

Challenge yourself. As you get stronger, decrease the assistance by using a thinner band with less resistance, lower the number of reps, and work up to practicing three days a week.

Mix it up. Fonooni suggests practicing chin-ups, with palms facing in, and flexed arm hangs, in which you start with your chin over the bar and slowly lower yourself.

Use your whole body. Pull-ups are a full-body workout. Activate your core – abs, back and glutes – as well as your arms.

Don’t lose hope. For many women, it could take weeks, months or a year to get that first pull-up.

Celebrate. When you finally get over that bar, there’s nothing wrong with doing a little happy dance. Then get back up there and go for a second one.