NEW ORLEANS – Brendon Ayanbadejo has heard from many players who applaud his support of gay marriage – some of them teammates, others from the opposing side of the line.
Then, just days before the biggest game of the year, he received a striking reminder of the macho attitudes that still prevail in the NFL.
San Francisco cornerback Chris Culliver said he wouldn’t welcome a gay player on his team. Even though he quickly backtracked, the comments underscored what Ayanbadejo believes: The league is still a long way from embracing its first openly gay player.
“It’s going to take a very courageous person to come out,” said Ayanbadejo, a backup linebacker and special teams ace for the Baltimore Ravens.
Culliver apologized Thursday, maintaining that what he said during an interview with comedian Artie Lange during Super Bowl media day – videotaped and posted on the Internet – were not his true beliefs.
“That’s not what I feel in my heart,” the defensive back said.
But Ayanbadejo, who stirred debate this season by backing a gay-rights amendment in his adopted state of Maryland, estimates that at least half the NFL’s players would agree with what Culliver said, at least privately.
Responding to a series of crude questions from Lange, Culliver said the 49ers didn’t have any gay players, and if they did, those players should leave.
“Can’t be with that sweet stuff,” he said, seemingly unaware that his comments would ever get back to San Francisco and the Bay Area, home to a large gay community.
“I’m sorry if I offended anyone. They were very ugly comments,” Culliver said. “Hopefully I will learn and grow from this experience and this situation. I love San Francisco.”
Whether he was honestly expressing his true feelings or trying to limit the damage, the comments prompted plenty of discussion about a larger issue: Is the NFL – or any major pro sport in the U.S. – ready to accept a player who comes out?
Several retired athletes have acknowledged their homosexuality after their careers were over. But no one has revealed it while actually suiting up, no doubt mindful of the divisiveness it might cause in the locker room.
“I’d say 50 percent of the people (in the NFL) think like Culliver. I’d say 25 percent of the people think like me.
“And 25 percent of the people are religious. They don’t necessarily agree with all the things I agree with, but they’re accepting,” Ayanbadejo said. “So it’s a fight. It’s an uphill battle.”
Ayanbadejo was asked what kind of player – and person – it would take to be the first openly gay athlete in the NFL.
He said it would have to be someone along the lines of Jackie Robinson, who broke the color barrier in baseball and, coincidentally, would have been 94 on Thursday.